Lynn's parenting experience

Lynn's parenting experience

Common mistakes that parents make :
Mistake #1 - not setting a clear boundaries or poor execution

Every human has his own limit & expectation towards almost everything in life. Parents should extend the same towards their babies. I say babies, but not kids, because we need to start showing them what's all about boundaries the moment they come to this world. It gets more crucial in execution when the child is growing up. Well, this may sound like a communist system. However, if you have toddlers or kids, you will know the predicament for not having a clear boundaries or poor execution. Parents with toddlers will find themselves agree with me in the sense of how toddlers push our limit. If you are not giving them clear cut expectations, they will always challenge it. Once you tell them which is right and which is not, you need to stand firm on the rule(s).

For example, you tell them no tv before they get their homework done. On and off, your child may beg for exemption, perhaps saying they do not want to miss their favorite shows. For the reason of not to disappoint them, you granted the exception, just for once. Do you think the previous rule still works? I'm so sorry to say, hardly. Not only on this particular one but other rules. They will apply the same tactic to seek for escape. Older kids may even confront openly when you try to reinforce rules on them. Typical confrontation sounds like this "why last time you said ok but now can not?"

If you are sure it's for their own good, explain to them; be firm & be fair on your execution. I was marked as a commander when come to ways I handle my kids. And, house rules are as rigid as army camp rules. When I look back, I feel glad that I was an commander. Kids grow up with higher ethics, more responsible towards themselves and better EQ. Kids know their limit and I have less hard time to deal with tantrums. They will nag or sometime try to negotiate when they demand something but never throw themselves on the floor or cry loudly to get what they want.