I'M BACK!!

After MIA for so long, here I'm back in action. I'M BACK!! Are you still there?

I'M back!!

I've been in busy mode since last Dec., and due to pc unstable; I'm not 'literally' doing anything to my blog. Bad huh..... not even updating a letter or two. My bad.

I had a lot of things to share since Dec. 2013. Here is the LONG list.

In Dec, me and kiddos traveled back to Sabah and had a 3-week fun holiday there. Me myself went cruising with my sweet cousin. A lot of Star Aquarius photos to share.

In Jan, I had a blast-ful & thrilling time when I became my apartment committee member. Unveiled human being's ugly side of selfishness and greediness.Where has your conscience gone?

In Feb, still, my schedule is packed with daily routine & "busy-body" tasks.

In March, make the special out of nothing special.

Welcome to Star Aquarius. Here you indulge and enjoy till you drop. 

不要以為每個跟你談養生談保健的朋友都是想騙你的錢－ 網上轉載

【不要以為每個跟你談養生談保健的朋友都是想騙你的錢】－ 網上轉載

 

功夫巨星李連杰在參加第六屆私教節時，談論健康養生之道和太極：你很有錢，但你值錢嗎？ 不要以為每個跟你談養生談保健的朋友都是想騙你的錢！ 錢是你的，身體也是你的！

 

傅彪比你有錢，換了二次肝還是走了。

梅艷芳比你有錢，請得起國內外的...任何專家，子宮頸癌把她帶走了。

陳曉旭比你有錢，從乳腺增生開始到乳腺癌，也沒能留下！

王均瑤比你有錢，35個億也沒有換到一寸健康的腸子，直腸癌把他帶走了！

 

你捨得穿衣， 你捨得買車， 你捨得買房， 你捨得在高檔場所消費， 你捨得購買奢侈品， 你捨得買一張床幾十萬， 你捨得買一個馬桶十幾萬， 你捨得買一個飯桌十幾萬， 你捨得買一雙皮鞋幾萬塊，但是卻不捨得花幾萬塊修理修理你的那個身體，養養你的睡眠，通通你的便秘，通通你的血管，降降你的胰島素，降降你那脂肪肝。

 

別人一與你談保健養生，你立刻捂著口袋瞪著眼睛，彷彿別人都是衝著你的錢來的，朋友們，請用一雙友愛的眼睛、善良的心去了解去觀察好嗎？ 世間沒有那麼多的欺騙與傷害，願意與你談保健養生，關心你身體狀況的人，都是愛你的親人與朋友。 分享與播種美好的事物是人與生具來的本性，用一顆敞開的胸懷去接受去嘗試，純淨的心靈，健康的身體，美好的生活，每個人都應該擁有！ 生命有限，健康無價！ 願每個朋友都能夠擁有幸福和諧的家庭，健康快樂的人生！

 

我说啊，如果不是看在大家一场‘相识’， 你说我会在乎吗。。。。？ 是时候好好地看待自己的健康，做做保健，养养生。 要不要活得更久不是关键，关键是你想不想活得健康。

How to help our children to admit their mistake?

A Wimpy Kid's mom diary:

03-OCT-2013

After turn SAHM for about 2 yrs, I learn that it’s for my own good not to address everything that I hear or I see even sometimes I am so itch to open my mouth. This is very effective in avoiding argument.

Tonite during dinner, Ian said he just took his LINUS today. Then he added, it’s held on Sept. (Sept? Now we are already in Oct) I believe it was just a slip of tongue, I better kept quite. However, his uncle pointed this out. He denied he ever say this, as usual! They argued over this and I interfered just to prove to him that I heard it too. However, his state of denial just as firm as his stubbornness. The most irritate things was, he cried out loud when 3 of us tried to prove him that he indeed say so.

Ended up? I’m the one who flared up & smacked on the table to stop him. Still, he stood firm on himself, denied that he ever said so. Ya, sometimes I just avoid having this type of argument with him, more so when I’m alone with him. I couldn’t find another witness to prove him wrong. Even though I can get one, it appears useless as he will still stubbornly deny it. Sometimes, I have to refrain myself on pointing out his mistake especially a mere of slip of tongue or something that is less important.

Well, I did googled on how to handle this – to encourage him to admit his mistake. Talked to him calmly (I have to pretend so) in order to make him feel comfortable and keep telling him it doesn’t matter as we, human, make mistakes. Just the matter of admit it and not to repeat it. It seems hard for him to accept that he make a mistake. It’s even harder for him to pop the word ‘sorry’ out from his mouth. Whenever I mentioned about apologized, he will cry out loud.

Most of the time, he cried so loud and I can't waited to get this over. And, believe it or not? It seldom gets OVER. Finally, after he cooled down, and I can’t wait to wrap this up, he will tell me with his very soft tone – I didn’t say that.  >.<  

I normally went mute as I’d used up all the words that I can from my word bank. If you want to know whether I manage to handle this, I have to admit that I FAIL to. I can’t find another way, so far. I have to keep battle with his stubbornness, as long as he is still under my care. Or until one day, he learned from it.

 
For you sake, here are some tips from the parenting experts
(extract & edited from http://www.parent4success.com/)
 

- Help our children understand that everyone makes mistakes and we 

don’t expect them to be perfect

- React to a mistake with a determination to help our child learn 

from it

- Wait for our child to calm down before discussing the mistake. 

- Encourage our child to admit to a mistake, and to take responsibility for it rather than blaming others. 

- Make sure that we stick to the one mistake, rather than bringing up any similar mistakes made in the past.

- Encourage our child to say sorry and discuss ways of doing this in person if possible or in a letter. 

- A good apology includes: a description of what happened, recognition of the hurt or damage done, accepting responsibility for the situation, admitting their role in the incident, expressing regret for what happened, asking forgiveness, reassurance that it won’t happen again and how they would like to make up for the hurt or damage. 

- Overcome the temptation to rescue our child from the consequences of a mistake. And help them to realise the consequences of their actions. (Such as children not wanting to play with them, people being cross, punishments at school etc.). 

 

Jesus is God's CCTV

One morning, when our car passed by the guard house, the girls saw a CCTV in close range, and are smart enough to recognize the device. Since the topic of CCTV being brought up, I have to say something.

"Hmm.... do you know that your school also has CCTV? Your school's CCTV is smaller and not easy to spot. So, try not to do funny things inside your school compound. Your teachers can easily know what you are doing or what you say."

The most mischievious one sure has something to say. "When I'm outside, there will be no more CCTV." (No wonder she always trying to do mischief out of my sight)
Her statement really put me to think......think.... Out of sudden, my savior appeared. "Do you think there is no CCTV when you are outside hah?" "Jesus is God's CCTV. Don't try to do funny thing. God will knows."

I almost want to shout out, THANK YOU, JIA EN!!

10 FREE WAYS TO BRING MORE ENERGY TO YOUR LIFE

While cleaning up my bookshelf, I came across Jan issue of Women Weekly. I stopped the cleaning and sunk myself into my cosy coach. Browsing through old magazines is something fun, for me.

Old magazines always have sentimental value & I tend to keep them as long as I can; until I have to clear up the space for newer issues. Normally, I will tear out the artiles I want and keep them in a ring file before I send the magazines for recycling.

I summarized below from Jan issue and add in some of my personal tips -- 10 FREE WAYS TO BRING MORE ENERGY TO YOUR LIFE

1. Dress up! when you looks good, smell good; you definitely feel good. Also, nicely dressed can lift your confidence level. (Lynn's tips: Looks good and smell good doesn't need to be costly. Keep your hair clean and neat, wear clothes and perfumes according to your age as well as your job is the most important after all. ) 2. Exercise Exercise improves your blood circulation and higher inflow of oxygen will make you feel less fatigue but more alert. And, you will looks good as your muscles are firmer and healthier. (Lynn's exercise tips: Try to workout with the aid of video. I personally found Cheng Door Yin is the best instructors among all. You will see your thighs and arms getting firmer after few sessions of workout. You may not need to follow through the whole session. Stop whenever you feel tired. Slowly increase the time by 2 mins in every next sessions. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yiQ6TR5s-co&list=PL859q82WcKIpqsenUsBx0P8395n0lDOD4 3. Sleep well It's very important to have a deep good night sleep. Your body recharge during your sleep. If the process doesn't goes well, you may have hard time the next day. (Lynn's tips: have a cup of warm honey before your sleep. Make sure the room is completely dark and temperature is appropriate) 4. Reboot your digestive system When your digestive system is functioning well, its more likely you get most of the nutrient from the food that you are eating. (Lynn's tips: Once a while, have pure yogurt, fruits and nuts for breakfast or snack. Eating enough of fiber, less processed food and enough rest is good for your bowel movement.)   5. Fuel up Try to includes high nutrient food in your meal or snack. Opt for nuts or fruits to replace unhealthy food. 6. Stay calm Negative feelings is bad for your health. Try to control your breath when you feel stressed, anxious, worry or angry. (Lynn's tips: Take deep breath whenever bad feeling crops up. I have to deal with anger a lot as I have short temper. Divert your attention, try to do some other thing, take a cup of drink or just as simple as walk away can instantly cool yourself down)   7. Grow some plants House plants like bamboo palms can bring vibrant chi into your house. (Lynn's tips: Spend some time to look at your green plants can help to soothe your tired eyes as well as to feel the joy of life) 8. Spend time with happy people Try to mix with positive thinking crowd. They will inspire you, support you and make you feel good. 9. Choose colour Bring bright vibrant colour to your living space, including your screen saver! 10. Keep hydrated Having yourself hydrated is an ideal way to push you through the day.

Introduce religious education to your kids.

First of all, I'm trying to be frank that I'm not in the position to discuss how to guide your kids on formal religious teaching, but trying to share my own experience as a medium in introducing religious teaching to be an important part of their personal development.

It's all God's will to have a church mentor stayed few doors away from me and with her passionate explanation, I let my kids attend Sat school. Of course in the early stage, it is more for social opportunities than for spiritual guidance. Every session is packed with fun-filled activities and child-friendly religious discussions.Sometimes, they do have outing for older children (young adult).

The idea here is not to discuss which religion is better to your kids, but to talk about expose your kids as early as possible to spirituality, faith, hope, and morality. It doesn't matter if you're a free thinker or not. The main point is to raise a compassionate child through religious teaching.

If we as a parent doesn't play a part to introduce them to any religious teaching, they most likely will be living religion-free lives in later years. Most likely they will become self-centered, more fragile to the fast-moving world as well as having higher chance to suffer depression. Having a religious background is actually to provide them a sense of self-valued, hope and faith before they have to face the challenging world.

Ladies, take a break!

No matter you are a stay at home mom or working mom, allowing yourself a reasonable break is crucial. Many of us may find it difficult to break away from house chores, or packed daily routines. Some working mom may say not easy to take leave, or to get a back fill.

Is taking a break out of your routine important? Some may say, my job doesn't require much physical movement, or a home maker doesn't means cleaning and washing all the time. Well, I used to think this way. However, day by day, you feel tired, wear out or bad mood. You are longing for me-time. You start recalling your good old days, as free as a bird. Here are signs that you need a me-time break very much.

To love yourself like how you treasure your job, or your family; give yourself a reasonable time off. Pampered yourself once a while is very mood-lifting. There are numerous ways to rejuvenate, depends on which is more effective; as individual results may vary. (a standard disclaimer huh)

Having a quality break doesn't need to be costly. Here are some ideas for consideration.

1. Arranging a day out with your BFF. No worry on what to say, what to bring along or to deal with tantrum. Just drop in to any shop that you like to. Spend your time there as long as you like. I normally buy clothes, accessories or nail polish during this time.

2. If you are longing for a physical theraphy, go for a massage/spa, then head for afternoon tea. Normally, I'll buy myself a book/magazine, then look for a place that I'd like to hang out for the next few hours. Spend your afternoon in ambience environment, sipping your coffee while reading is very relaxing.

3. Wanna have a break with minimal cost? Why not, you can still have your afternoon tea at outlets that offer tea break promotion. And know what, most of them keep the latest magazines on their rack! Like, Seasons, SDS....

4. Go for hair cut and hair treatment not only relaxing but makes you will feel good at least for the rest of the week.

5. For certain people, day off doesn't mean outing day. If you perfer to rest at home, please make sure no housework. You may spend your day on grooming (doing your own hair spa, DIY medi or pedicure), reading or even sleeping. This shall be the best way to recharge yourself.

6. For those who enjoy physical workout, you may plan to have a bowling, badminton games, hiking, swimming or go to gym. Sweating will make you feel fresh as well as to generate positive chi.

I usually have my me-time after kids bed time or when they went off for tuition. This is the time I recharge myself as well as to plan out what I need to do the next day, including my tuition lesson plan.